Older sisters have both a god and victim complex
it’s always ‘wyd’ and never wanna dance round the kitchen in the refrigerator light?
expressing love without saying i love you
- “ you've changed my life. “
- “ i would do anything for you. “
- “ you know me better than anyone. you always have. “
- “ marry me. “
- “ i want to spend the rest of my life with you. “
- “ you inspire me to do better. “
- “ i want you to stay, here, with me. “
- “ you are the good in my life. “
- “ i feel safe with you. “
- “ i admire you. “
- “ so lucky you're mine... “
- “ what did i do to deserve you? “
- “ the best thing that has ever happened to me... “
- “ i want you to stay, here, with me. “
- “ you are the good in my life. “
- “ this belonged to my mother. i want you to have it. “
- “ you brought me back to life. “
- “ i want forever with you. “
- “ you're safe with me. you know that, right? “
- “ want to move in together? “
- “ you loved me back to life. “
i have a hill to die on real quick
phrases like “you don’t owe anyone anything” and “relationships aren’t transactional” have the power to be used in ways that are very backwards and harmful
for example, no you don’t owe anyone anything in that if some creep is trying to get with you, you can block him without feeling bad. you don’t owe kindness to people who are transphobic or racist or bigoted.
but, you can’t use this as an excuse to fuck over people who have helped you. “you don’t owe anyone anything” isn’t an excuse to allow yourself to forget compassion and basic empathy, it isn’t an excuse for you to be an asshole just because you find it easier to be one
relationships aren’t transactional in that if your partner does something nice for you, you are indebted to them. they do these things because they love you; it is their choice to express love through these gestures
but they are transactional in that you both actively need to be putting time and care into the relationship. ignoring the dynamic of one person caring too much (and putting in excessive (emotional an literal) work and labor) while the other does nothing isn’t healthy. one person can’t solely take and the other person can’t solely give- that’s dangerous, and you can’t put the bandaid of “this isn’t transactional” over a relationship that is draining you in all capacities
i’m tired of seeing these things being misconstrued and used as an excuse to hurt people, while framing it as a way of taking care of yourself
THE advantage of memorizing poetry is that when somethings happening, maybe even you’re in a situation or a location, you can just go “ok. lady of shallott time” and boom. you reclaimed your mental space and attention for YOU for the next ten minutes
Everyone should be able to do one card trick, tell two jokes, and recite three poems, in case they are ever trapped in an elevator.
— Lemony Snicket, Horseradish
Whenever I’ve had to explain something extremely simple to a customer i quote the odyssey in my head: “And if a god will wreck me yet again on the wine-dark sea, I can bear that too, with a spirit tempered to endure.”
“I understood the true fate of Orpheus, that love is a constant terror of loss.”
—
Kazimierz Wierzyński, tr. by Czeslaw Milosz, “A Word of Orphists,”
(via violentwavesofemotion)
someone being audibly excited to talk to you is like a basic need in the pyramid thingy it’s literally the whole bottom block and then it’s food water blah blah blah etc etc
No experience more viscerally humiliating than walking through a heavily populated building with squeaky shoes. Look at me doing my little clown walk across the entire length of the building. Dumbass squeaking noises ringing out with every step. Sounds like I'm walking on two guinea pigs. I wish I was dead
“The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars.”
— Jack Kerouac
“I think we cry to release the animal parts of us without losing our humanity.”
— Veronica Roth, Insurgent
“You’ll ache. And you’re going to love it. It will crush you. And you’re still going to love all of it. Doesn’t it sound lovely beyond belief?”
— Ernest Hemingway
How is everything so vulgar and over sexualised but completely sexless and devoid of magnetism and desire….. neutered ass planet
Fandom ppl liking and reblogging this post makes if funnier LMFAOOO u guys are like 28% of the problem
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